Pet Loss Support Resources
Pet Loss Support
Loving an animal companion brings joy and fulfillment unlike anything else in life, but losing them brings deep grief and sorrow. When your animal dies, you’ll feel sadness, but you also may go through a range of more complicated emotions like anger, guilt, emptiness, or even relief. Sometimes, people are surprised at the intensity of their grief and worry they are “going crazy” or that the pain will never end. These reactions to loss are difficult to endure but they are shared among those who are grieving animal companions.
You are not alone.
Support
Not everyone in your life will understand what you are going through but getting support from people who do is one of the most important ways you can take care of yourself during this difficult time. The AMC Pet Loss Support Program, which is free and open to the public, is a place to find that community. You can find information about other groups and resources at the bottom of this page.
Self-Care
As you mourn, it’s important to take care of yourself. Make sure to eat wholesome food and to get enough rest. Be patient with yourself during this process; there is no timeline you must follow. Find ways to stay connected with the memory of your departed companion. If you feel that the sorrow is too much to bear, reach out to one of the hotlines below, some of which offer 24/7 support.
Supporting the Whole Family Through the Loss of an Animal Companion
AMC’s Social Work Services, in partnership with the Usdan Institute, has created guides to supporting children, spouses, and surviving animals after the loss of animal companion. We hope these resources can be of help as you navigate this difficult time.
Making Final Arrangements
Information for scheduling a viewing and arranging cremation or burial.
For AMC clients who have experienced a loss and need assistance making arrangement for their pet, please download AMC’s Final Arrangements brochure.
Memorials
Memorials help to mark the importance of a loss. They help people adjust to life without their loved one and to emotionally relocate the loved one in their heart and memory. When thinking about how to memorialize an animal companion, consider adapting rituals from your own culture or religion and think about meaningful routines you and your animal shared. Memorial rituals are especially important for children, who need to understand and process loss in a concrete way.
Some ideas for animal memorials include:
- Create a monument in your home with items such as photos, candles, fresh flowers, and/or an urn
- Make a donation to an animal-related charity
- Plant a tree to honor your animal companion
- Hold a gathering with loved ones at home or at one of your animal’s favorite spots to share memories and honor the life of your animal
- Create memorial crafts such as a photo frame, keepsake box, or collage
If you need help with developing a memorial to honor your animal companion, please contact SocialWork@amcny.org.
Questions/Concerns
If you have any questions about the resources on this page, or if you have recommendations of other resources that have been helpful for you, please contact AMC’s Social Worker, Jamie Cohen, LCSW.
Additional Resources
Pet Loss Support Groups (free)
- Red Bank Animal Hospital | (732) 747-3636 | In-person (Tinton Falls, NJ) | Meets 2x each month
- Greater Life Grief Counseling | In-person (Malta, NY) & Virtual | First Tuesday of each month at 6pm | Register by emailing Kelly at Kelly@glgriefcounseling.com
- Lap of Love | Virtual | Sessions are available several times throughout the week
- Bidawee | Virtual | Every Sunday at 1pm
- Pet Loss Support Group facilitated by Elaine Wolff & Julie Ross | Virtual | Second and fourth Thursday of each month from 7-8:30pm | Register by emailing nybirddog@aol.com
- Oradell Animal Hospital | Virtual | First and third Tuesday of each month at 7pm
- Pet Loss Support Group facilitated by Susan Cohen | Virtual | Second Wednesday of each month from 6:30-8:00 pm | Register by emailing susanpcohen@msn.com
- Mohawk Humane Society | Virtual | Third Wednesday of each month from 6-7pm
- Hopewell Animal Hospital | Virtual | Third Sunday of each month at 11am
- Chicago Veterinary Medical Association | Virtual | First Wednesday of each month from 8:30-10pm | Register by emailing Dr. Linda Harper at linda@drlindaharper.com
Pet Loss Support Groups (fee required)
- Assistance Dog Loss Support | Virtual | Membership required for registration, starting at $40/year
- St. Hubert’s Animal Welfare | (973) 377-7094 | Virtual | First Tuesday of each month at 7pm & Third Sunday of each month at 11am | Required donation of $5 per session
- Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement | Virtual | Second and fourth Saturday of each month from 7-9pm | $39/year
- Pet Loss Partners | Virtual | Required donation of $15 per session
- Pet Loss Community Virtual | Once a week, various dates at 7:30pm | $44/month
Individual Counseling
If you are seeking individual counseling to cope with grief after pet loss, below is a list of licensed providers with expertise in pet loss counseling and animal-related issues. All providers are licensed in NY State unless otherwise indicated. Please confirm the provider accepts your insurance before scheduling.
Last Updated 12/30/2024
Counselors who Accept Insurance
- Jennifer Breslow, LCAT, ATR-BC, CASAC | (646) 481-5228 | Telehealth
- Cigna
- Thomas Fronczak, LCSW-R | (401) 431-2953 | Telehealth
- Amerigroup, Anthem, BlueCross and BlueShield, Excellus, Independent Health, Univera Healthcare
- Ginny Paige, LCSW | (212) 381-6168 | ginny@ginnypaigelcsw.com | Telehealth
- Aetna, Optum
- Judith Liu, LCSW | (646) 481-5228 | info@eclecticbalance.com | Telehealth and In-Person (Nyack, NY & Stamford, CT)
- UnitedHealthcare, Tricare East – Humana, Husky, Aetna, Cigna, Oxford Health Plans, UMR, Oscar, 1199
- Nancy Saxton-Lopez, LCSW | (201) 638-7404 | nsaxtonlopez@csmpc.com | Telehealth | Additional Licenses: New Jersey
- Aetna, BlueCross and BlueShield, Cigna and Evernorth, Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield, Horizon Blue Cross and Blue Shield, Magellan, MagnaCare, Medicare, Oxford, QualCare, UMR, UnitedHealthcare UHC | UBH
- Janet Zimmerman, LCSW-R | (631) 643-6205 | Telehealth
- Medicare
- Julie Ross, LCSW, PhD | (917) 880-1928 | julierossphd@gmail.com | Telehealth and In-Person (UWS, Manhattan) |*Works with children/families (in addition to individual adults)
- Anthem BCBS, Medicare
- Mariann Acari Rubin, LCSW | (718) 354-3032 | Telehealth | Additional Licenses: Arizona
- Aetna, Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield, Beacon/Carelon, Emblem Health-GHI and HIP, Medicare, Optum-United Behavioral Health and United Health Care
- Real Talk Therapy | (646) 770-0535 | info@realtalktherapynyc.com | Telehealth | Additional Licenses: New Jersey, Florida, California, Minnesota, & South Carolina | *Practice has multiple clinicians with expertise in pet loss
- Wellfleet
Counselors who are Out of Network
- Stacie Woodland, LCSW | (917) 525-4477 | stacie@partnershipforhealing.com | Telehealth and In-Person (Flatiron, Manhattan)
- April Lang, LCSW | (212) 577-1357 | Telehealth
- Lauren Gillespie, LCSW | Schedule an intro call via website | Telehealth
- Annie Marie Farage-Smith, LMHC | (585) 615-5492 | annemarie@farage-smith.com | Telehealth
- Cathay Che, LCSW | Telehealth | Additional Licenses: Rhode Island and California
- Judith Rosen, LCSW, VSW | (917) 524-9839 | Telehealth | Additional Licenses: New Jersey and Connecticut
- Anne-Elizabeth Straub, LCSW | (646) 203-8656 | straub4therapy@gmail.com | Telehealth
- Susan Dowd Stone, LCSW | (201) 408-2483 | susanstonelcsw@aol.com | Telehealth | Licensed in New Jersey and Massachusetts ONLY
Grief Counseling Hotlines
Cornell University Pet Loss Support Hotline
- (607) 218-7457
The Pet Loss Support Hotline is available via Google Voice to support you Sundays and Tuesdays 6-9 p.m. EST. When prompted to say your name, you may say “anonymous” if you wish.
Tufts University Pet Loss Support Hotline
- (508) 839-7966
6:00 pm-9:00 pm, Monday through Friday
Phone messages can be left 24/7
988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline
- Free and 24/7
Call or text 988 or visit 988lifeline.org
Online Support
- Support & Resources for Pet Owners from Ohio State University Veterinary Medical Center
- Dr. Katie Lawlor, Psy.D on Instagram | @petlovedoctor
- The Pet Loss Companion Podcast hosted by Nancy Saxton-Lopez and Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio | Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube
- AMC’s Pet Loss Support Program Spotify Playlist – If you would like to add a song, contact socialwork@amcny.org
Articles
Requires a NY Times Account:
- Finnegan, Dog Known for His Exemplary Nose, Dies at 14, by Dr. Alexandra Horowitz
Online Memorials
Books for Adults
- The Pet Loss Companion: Healing Advice from Family Therapists Who Lead Pet Loss Groups, by Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio and Nancy Saxton-Lopez
- The Grief Recovery Handbook for Pet Loss, by Russell Friedman, Coles James, and John W. James
- When Your Pet Dies: A Guide to Mourning, Remembering, and Healing, by Alan D. Wolfelt
- My Pet Remembrance Journal, by Enid Traisman
- Going Home: Finding Peace when Pets Die, by Jon Katz
- A 30-Day Guide for Healing from the Loss of Your Pet, by Gael J. Ross
- Coping with Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet, by Moira Anderson Allen M.Ed.
Books for Children
- When a Pet Dies, by Fred Rogers
- Dog Heaven, by Cynthia Rylant
- Cat Heaven, by Cynthia Rylant
- The Tenth Good Thing About Barney, by Judith Viorst
- Healing Your Grieving Heart for Kids, by Alan D. Wolfelt
- Because of Flowers and Dancers, by Sandra Brackenridge, LCSW
- The Dead Bird, by Margaret Wise Brown
- The Goodbye Book, by Todd Parr
- The Invisible Leash, by Patrice Karst